He later found me on the Chicago – M4M AOL chat room and tried to solicit me to join other boys at a Michigan gathering. RELATED: We are not yours: I’m tired of white women’s racial-sexual terrorism of my BlaQueer body A white male, easily in his thirties or forties, took the opportunity to sit next to me and lean to greet me with, “You look like you play basketball”. I was sitting in the lobby of a doctor’s office as my mother checked in with the registrar for my appointment. My first encounter I can remember with sexual coercion was at the age of 12. As a minor, before transitioning, I was coerced and seduced by many older gay white men who preyed on Black children assumed to be boys, and their tactics became more and more dangerous as I grew into adulthood. The gay white men who do what he’s done usually get away with it, especially when their victims aren’t white. Kevin Spacey, the actor recently charged with the sexual assault of a then-under age bus boy, is a fluke. We need to talk about gay white men and how they get away with the rape and sexual violation of Black folks without society holding them accountable. This essay contains discussion of r/pe and sexual violence against minors.